Bullies

Today, being spirit day where we show our support for youth (LGBT youth in particular) that are bullied. I figured it was appropriate to talk about all the different types of bullies out there. It's more than just the kids shouting taunts at each other anymore - make no mistake about it, those kinds of bullies are still there, but there are so many more these days.

There's the activist that believes so much in their cause that they are blinded by their ideals and cannot see the other side of the argument and quickly resort to nasty tactics to prove their point, often ignoring the fallacy of their own statements or their own contradictory nature. Take for example the National Organization for Marriage. They claim that gay marriage shouldn't be allowed because it violates the traditional definition of marriage, which in their eyes, involves procreation and the raising of children. In reality...they shout this at the top of their lungs, so loudly that they don't hear the questions. Why aren't you fighting divorce? With divorce rates in this country sky-rocketing, clearly this is bad for marriage. Why aren't you fighting marriages that take place that don't result in children? You yourselves said that marriage is all about procreation - so if a marriage does not produce children, it should be dissolved, it is clearly not a traditional marriage. They don't fight these things because they are bullies. They really don't care about marriage - they are just against the gays, and will do anything in their power to "put us in our place".

There's the friends that take advantage and only take, take, take and give nothing back...everything becomes your fault. You are the one that lost touch, you are the one that never calls, you are the one that constantly has to keep up the communication and thus the friendship. They are constantly blathering on about how great your friendship is, but don't ever take steps to see you or contact you unless they need something. That's not a friend...it's a contact and you network with contacts. They have time for everyone in their life but you. Dinner? A show? Getting together? They are far too busy to make time for that...but they have time to take another trip with another friend. They have time to go to this benefit or that and blast it all over twitter or facebook, but don't have the time for you. That's not a friend...it's a bully...a time bully, and my time is just as important as yours, so if you're a time bully, I have no time for you until the scales come even.

Just two examples of the non-traditional bullies that are out there...there are many more. The time has come for us all to say goodbye to bullying, to take ownership of any bullying we do and let it go...become better people, better friends...better humans...we're all in this together!