so there has been a stir recently regarding senior proms. First Constance wants to bring her girlfriend and the school district cancels the prom instead of allowing her to. Then Derrick Martin asks to bring his male date and the school says yes - and supports him. Rejoice. Until you find out that his parents have kicked him out of their home because (if you read between the lines of their statement) he's gay. This poor kid. Constance might have had a tougher fight to get to prom, but she has a supportive family that is standing behind her. Derrick has lost that now...it just makes me want to cry. This poor kid is only standing up for his rights and has made a giant sacrifice because of it.
Read more about it here, still trying to figure out if there are legit ways to help him out at this point...
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Friday, March 5, 2010
I wish...
that those that quote the Bible and use it as a tool to deny others rights and access would remember that there's only one way to heaven, but half a million ways to fall. Maybe then they would realize that they're just like the rest of us and not have to hide in the closet and react to scandal when it surrounds them!
Monday, March 1, 2010
Just thoughts...
New York City is a place where every guy has their eyes on the door, to see who walks in next and what other prospects are out there. It's like we're all waiting for something or someone better to walk into our lives, but would we even know if they did in the midst of this constant game? It would be nice to stop for a while and live in the now with someone who's not playing the game.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Masculinity
What makes someone masculine? What makes someone feminine? It's something that I have struggled with for most of my life. Even in elementary and high school I was the one being picked on for not being masculine enough. It's always made me wonder what defines masculinity. I've come to my own conclusions, they differ from other people though.
I personally believe that masculinity is defined from within. Just because you have bulging muscles and facial hair doesn't make you masculine. You can be rail thin and wiry and be more masculine than a muscle boy. It's how you feel and project yourself. I am a man, I am therefore masculine. I know that I have my moments where the feminine side shows. I can be emotional, I can be romantic - I'm gay - but that doesn't make me any less masculine than other men out there. I have a penis, and trust me when I tell you I know what one is, I've seen plenty of them! I am a man. I do not let what I wear, what my apt looks like, how I smell, what shoes I wear or what bag I carry define my masculinity.
I wear clothes that fit me well, are stylish and comfortable. I like my apt to be clean an orderly, I have a sense of style. I like to smell good, and have a few scents I really like to wear. I like to have a variety of shoes to wear, but don't call me Imelda Marcos. The bag I carry is functional, it accommodates everything I need it to: the book I'm currently reading, my gym clothes, the water bottle, the coffee thermos, my iPod and headphones, etc. None of those things define who I am with regard to my masculinity, at least not to me.
Imagine my surprise then when I'm told in the locker room of the gym last night by some ass, clearly, that my bag was not masculine enough and I should get something else. The dumb schmuck didn't know what hit him, or who he was dealing with when I replied:
That's odd, because the same could be said about your shoes. At least I don't let objects define my masculinity, good luck to you though, since clearly you do.
His jaw dropped, and I made my exit...I should write a show...or a book! I love being sarcastic and witty and being able to think on my feet...I think that's the blessing of being an out gay man that doesn't really care what everyone else thinks.
I personally believe that masculinity is defined from within. Just because you have bulging muscles and facial hair doesn't make you masculine. You can be rail thin and wiry and be more masculine than a muscle boy. It's how you feel and project yourself. I am a man, I am therefore masculine. I know that I have my moments where the feminine side shows. I can be emotional, I can be romantic - I'm gay - but that doesn't make me any less masculine than other men out there. I have a penis, and trust me when I tell you I know what one is, I've seen plenty of them! I am a man. I do not let what I wear, what my apt looks like, how I smell, what shoes I wear or what bag I carry define my masculinity.
I wear clothes that fit me well, are stylish and comfortable. I like my apt to be clean an orderly, I have a sense of style. I like to smell good, and have a few scents I really like to wear. I like to have a variety of shoes to wear, but don't call me Imelda Marcos. The bag I carry is functional, it accommodates everything I need it to: the book I'm currently reading, my gym clothes, the water bottle, the coffee thermos, my iPod and headphones, etc. None of those things define who I am with regard to my masculinity, at least not to me.
Imagine my surprise then when I'm told in the locker room of the gym last night by some ass, clearly, that my bag was not masculine enough and I should get something else. The dumb schmuck didn't know what hit him, or who he was dealing with when I replied:
That's odd, because the same could be said about your shoes. At least I don't let objects define my masculinity, good luck to you though, since clearly you do.
His jaw dropped, and I made my exit...I should write a show...or a book! I love being sarcastic and witty and being able to think on my feet...I think that's the blessing of being an out gay man that doesn't really care what everyone else thinks.
Monday, February 15, 2010
Arrival Day
For a long time, Valentine's day hasn't really meant anything to me - whether I've been with someone or not. It's just another day. I'm a romantic by nature, I don't need a special day on the calendar to remind me to hold someone's hand and tell them I love them.
For 27 years though, Feb 15th has been a very special day in my family. It's the day we celebrate my sister entering our lives. She's my sister, and I regularly forget that she's adopted, but today always reminds me. Not because we think of her any differently because she's adopted, but because we celebrate how much we wanted her in our lives. My mom and dad really wanted a little girl. They got sorta close with me, way off base with my brother, and figured, why take a chance and adopted my sister.
My sister and I have always been really close, and she's taught me so much about inner strength and fortitude, and just having the courage to be yourself. I love her so much...so today it's about her! Happy Arrival Day Bean!
For 27 years though, Feb 15th has been a very special day in my family. It's the day we celebrate my sister entering our lives. She's my sister, and I regularly forget that she's adopted, but today always reminds me. Not because we think of her any differently because she's adopted, but because we celebrate how much we wanted her in our lives. My mom and dad really wanted a little girl. They got sorta close with me, way off base with my brother, and figured, why take a chance and adopted my sister.
My sister and I have always been really close, and she's taught me so much about inner strength and fortitude, and just having the courage to be yourself. I love her so much...so today it's about her! Happy Arrival Day Bean!
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Hallmark Holidays...
So, today was Valentines Day - the highest and holiest of the hallmark holidays! It's completely over-rated. Single or with someone, I never really put too much stock in the importance of this hyped up holiday. It's really just another day, and do you need a special reason to say I Love You to someone? If you do, one day isn't going to help you!
Why is it that love is in the air for Valentine's Day and the other days seem forgotten? When I worked in higher education, I used to sponsor Anti-Valentine's Day parties - whether I was single or not. There are a ton of single people out there that just end up getting depressed at all the over hype this day has in store, is it any wonder there's some resentment there?
This year, I am single yet again, and my usual Valentine (my best friend) is across the pond, hopefully having a very good time with a boy - I wish him all the best! I cleaned, re-arranged furniture, went to the gym, ran a few errands, bought myself something nice, and have had a lazy Sunday lounging about watching tv and lots of gay movies. Would I rather have had someone's hand to hold, hell yeah - will that feeling be there tomorrow the same as it was the day before? Hell yes. I'm a romantic at heart - Valentine's Day does not change that!
So, happy Hallmark Holiday y'all! Besides, for me, tomorrow is the most important day - Arrival Day!
Why is it that love is in the air for Valentine's Day and the other days seem forgotten? When I worked in higher education, I used to sponsor Anti-Valentine's Day parties - whether I was single or not. There are a ton of single people out there that just end up getting depressed at all the over hype this day has in store, is it any wonder there's some resentment there?
This year, I am single yet again, and my usual Valentine (my best friend) is across the pond, hopefully having a very good time with a boy - I wish him all the best! I cleaned, re-arranged furniture, went to the gym, ran a few errands, bought myself something nice, and have had a lazy Sunday lounging about watching tv and lots of gay movies. Would I rather have had someone's hand to hold, hell yeah - will that feeling be there tomorrow the same as it was the day before? Hell yes. I'm a romantic at heart - Valentine's Day does not change that!
So, happy Hallmark Holiday y'all! Besides, for me, tomorrow is the most important day - Arrival Day!
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