Valentines Day

I was thinking about the artificial holiday dedicated to love a lot yesterday, after all, it was Valentine's Day. I celebrated the day in high school, when I had girlfriends...in the typical, sugary-sweet high school fashion. In college, when I was figuring myself out and NOT dating anyone, as well as being an RA and wanting to offer those that didn't have the typical lovey-dovey date, I used to sponsor Anti-Valentine's Day parties every year. We'd watch a scary movie, have food and then throw darts at a giant billboard covered in valentines day cards. As I grew up, I celebrated fewer and fewer Valentine's Days until they just became another day on the calendar. I celebrated a handful of times as an adult, when I was dating someone at the time. I have one fond memory of Valentine's Day, when I was dating Tony, but the rest are a blur. I know we celebrated, as that's what couple's do. I think I remember the VDay with Tony, only because it was the last time I really celebrated the day - and that was almost 10 years ago.

I'm not really against VDay, but I'm not really for it either. If you're in a relationship, shouldn't you make the person you're with feel special every day? Shouldn't every day be a celebration of your love? Why should you wait for one day to have a big, all out celebration? Anniversaries I get. Birthday's I get. But a special day to take your sweetheart on a date and buy them flowers, I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I don't get it. I look at relationships differently I guess. I want the person I'm with to know that I cherish them everyday - not just VDay. Maybe it's because I'm single. Maybe I'm just warped...

Perhaps it's because, in my family, we have a big celebration on the 15th of February every year. We mark the day that my sister came into our lives. It's not her birthday, there are no presents, although there is cake - strawberry frosting. My sister is adopted, and she was 3 months old on the day that she came into our lives, and every year since, we have had a celebration to mark the occasion. That was always worth celebrating more to me anyway...

Hallmark Holidays...

So, today was Valentines Day - the highest and holiest of the hallmark holidays!  It's completely over-rated.  Single or with someone, I never really put too much stock in the importance of this hyped up holiday.  It's really just another day, and do you need a special reason to say I Love You to someone?  If you do, one day isn't going to help you!

Why is it that love is in the air for Valentine's Day and the other days seem forgotten?  When I worked in higher education, I used to sponsor Anti-Valentine's Day parties - whether I was single or not.  There are a ton of single people out there that just end up getting depressed at all the over hype this day has in store, is it any wonder there's some resentment there?

This year, I am single yet again, and my usual Valentine (my best friend) is across the pond, hopefully having a very good time with a boy - I wish him all the best!  I cleaned, re-arranged furniture, went to the gym, ran a few errands, bought myself something nice, and have had a lazy Sunday lounging about watching tv and lots of gay movies.  Would I rather have had someone's hand to hold, hell yeah - will that feeling be there tomorrow the same as it was the day before?  Hell yes.  I'm a romantic at heart - Valentine's Day does not change that!

So, happy Hallmark Holiday y'all!  Besides, for me, tomorrow is the most important day - Arrival Day!