I've started compiling my most magical man list. I was chatting with a friend recently about dating, finding a man and sticking to principles. What's more important - a man that doesn't smoke or one who does but can carry a conversation? Why should I have to settle? Why am I not entitled to both! I am!
We got to talking about the book The Most Magical Man List about a woman who sets out to find love by writing up her list of characteristics that she most desires and won't compromise on. Could she find a guy that held all the qualities she sought? Was it worth a second or third date if a majority of the list was lacking?
That conversation got me thinking - what would my most magical man list look like? Looking back at all my exes - what qualities would I keep? I know which ones I don't want, obviously. I started compiling my list - its easier than I thought, when I actually sat down and started thinking about it. I did feel a little like Jane and Michael Banks though. Should I put them to song and sing about …y most magical man - after all, when they did it they ended up with the perfect Nanny. Surely if it worked for the kids in Mary Poppins it would work for me, right?
Well, I don't know that I will be putting it into song anytime soon, but I have a good list going now, and every once in a while I find myself adding a quality or characteristic to it. Now to find a man that has a majority or all of those qualities!
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
Labels...
I've hooked up with a few guys recently who claim to be heterosexual, yet wanted to mess around with another guy. Curious you say, well, I said the same thing. It got me thinking though; about labels. Why do we feel the need to have to label everything?
I get putting a label on the leftovers so you know what they are and when they were made. I get labeling the items in a store so we, as consumers, know how much we will be paying. I don't get putting a label on a person.
I was labeled as a kid: speech impaired (I couldn't say my own last name, but then again, neither could any of my teachers), talented and gifted, the good boy. Some of those labels stick with you forever! I am forever living down the good boy label!
I have been with women and men - does that mean I'm not gay? That's how I self-identify. I have friends that have been with both women and men, and they are gay men, straight men, lesbians and straight women. Who decides? Perhaps, as Kinsey pointed out all those years ago, our sexuality is fluid, and over time can change. Perhaps, as in other cultures, these men and women are just more in tune with their bodies and what feels good to them, regardless of how others label it.
Personally, I think if we, as a society, let go of some of our pent up need to make things fit into certain boxes or labels we would be far better off, and people might actually enjoy themselves a bit more. Save the labels for the leftovers!
I get putting a label on the leftovers so you know what they are and when they were made. I get labeling the items in a store so we, as consumers, know how much we will be paying. I don't get putting a label on a person.
I was labeled as a kid: speech impaired (I couldn't say my own last name, but then again, neither could any of my teachers), talented and gifted, the good boy. Some of those labels stick with you forever! I am forever living down the good boy label!
I have been with women and men - does that mean I'm not gay? That's how I self-identify. I have friends that have been with both women and men, and they are gay men, straight men, lesbians and straight women. Who decides? Perhaps, as Kinsey pointed out all those years ago, our sexuality is fluid, and over time can change. Perhaps, as in other cultures, these men and women are just more in tune with their bodies and what feels good to them, regardless of how others label it.
Personally, I think if we, as a society, let go of some of our pent up need to make things fit into certain boxes or labels we would be far better off, and people might actually enjoy themselves a bit more. Save the labels for the leftovers!
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Life through Polarized Lenses...
Everyone else can look at the world through rose coloured glasses, I prefer to look at life through polarized lenses. They are modern, stylish and come in several hues. Besides, they let you see what's safety glass and what's not - if you know what you're looking for.
So, keep your rose coloured lenses if you want, but that only makes the world have a rosy hue, it doesn't make it any better or worse. At least with polarized lenses you see the world as it is, and protect your eyes from harmful UV rays, but I digress.
The ability to change your perspective on what your looking at around you doesn't come from the lenses you look through, but from within you. Keep a positive outlook, and regardless of the hue of the lenses, the world will be rosy.
So, keep your rose coloured lenses if you want, but that only makes the world have a rosy hue, it doesn't make it any better or worse. At least with polarized lenses you see the world as it is, and protect your eyes from harmful UV rays, but I digress.
The ability to change your perspective on what your looking at around you doesn't come from the lenses you look through, but from within you. Keep a positive outlook, and regardless of the hue of the lenses, the world will be rosy.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Journey
We are all on this journey called life. Some of us are in it together, some of us are in it to win it. Others prefer to fly solo, and stay off the radar. Some of us believe in humanity, while others do all they can to discredit it.
Every once in a while, our journey, for whatever reason, gets de-railed. We end up in a relationship where we lose a piece of ourselves. Sometimes, its a job that completely occupies all of our time and keeps us isolated from our friends and family, or involves far off travel or relocation.
Occasionally we are granted the opportunity to reset our journey and begin anew. We decide to take things into our own hands - we quit or leave the demanding job, we end the abusive relationship, we pick up and move to another place to start over.
I've been fortunate enough to have hit the reset button, not once, but twice - although argument could be made that it was the same reset, just in steps. I think, 10 years after my last reset, my system might be ready for another. I feel all sorts of complacency lately, and I don't know why. I can narrow things down and eliminate them as the cause, but as things get ticked off the list it just becomes a bigger mystery - so perhaps a general reset is warranted.
Every once in a while, our journey, for whatever reason, gets de-railed. We end up in a relationship where we lose a piece of ourselves. Sometimes, its a job that completely occupies all of our time and keeps us isolated from our friends and family, or involves far off travel or relocation.
Occasionally we are granted the opportunity to reset our journey and begin anew. We decide to take things into our own hands - we quit or leave the demanding job, we end the abusive relationship, we pick up and move to another place to start over.
I've been fortunate enough to have hit the reset button, not once, but twice - although argument could be made that it was the same reset, just in steps. I think, 10 years after my last reset, my system might be ready for another. I feel all sorts of complacency lately, and I don't know why. I can narrow things down and eliminate them as the cause, but as things get ticked off the list it just becomes a bigger mystery - so perhaps a general reset is warranted.
Friday, May 14, 2010
End of an Era
It's appears that it's an end of an era in the world of television. If this is to be believed, after 20 years, Law and Order will come to an end.
Before I moved to NYC, it was one of the shows I watched because of all the NYC locations and shots. When I moved here, I loved it more - watching to see how many places I knew or had been to. My former roommate and I used to watch religiously, even the re-runs, to see where we knew and what they were trying to pass off as a location other than what it was. Hudson University, for example, doesn't exist, so various other colleges and universities in the area were often used in place.
When I took my current job, this was the first production I worked on. Walking around the ins and outs of the set were a part of my interview process. I climbed into the perms and under the stages. It was almost surreal to be on the set of the show I had watched for years. It was even more surreal a few seasons later when I was working on the taping of the 365th episode. 365 episodes. That meant you could watch an episode a day for a year and never see a repeat - there are many more episodes than that now. How many shows get to say they've filmed 365 episodes? It was monumental to be a part of. It was a time I will never forget. There were a ton of guest stars that I remember, a ton of faces of cast and crew that were amazing to work with.
Even though I've moved on to another area of focus, my time at Law and Order was always among my favorite with all of the television shows I worked on. I am feeling the loss today along with my friends from the show. Congrats to 20 seasons and a long run and thanks for the great memories.
Before I moved to NYC, it was one of the shows I watched because of all the NYC locations and shots. When I moved here, I loved it more - watching to see how many places I knew or had been to. My former roommate and I used to watch religiously, even the re-runs, to see where we knew and what they were trying to pass off as a location other than what it was. Hudson University, for example, doesn't exist, so various other colleges and universities in the area were often used in place.
When I took my current job, this was the first production I worked on. Walking around the ins and outs of the set were a part of my interview process. I climbed into the perms and under the stages. It was almost surreal to be on the set of the show I had watched for years. It was even more surreal a few seasons later when I was working on the taping of the 365th episode. 365 episodes. That meant you could watch an episode a day for a year and never see a repeat - there are many more episodes than that now. How many shows get to say they've filmed 365 episodes? It was monumental to be a part of. It was a time I will never forget. There were a ton of guest stars that I remember, a ton of faces of cast and crew that were amazing to work with.
Even though I've moved on to another area of focus, my time at Law and Order was always among my favorite with all of the television shows I worked on. I am feeling the loss today along with my friends from the show. Congrats to 20 seasons and a long run and thanks for the great memories.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Musicals...
If my life were a musical, would I get to pick all the numbers? Who would play me? Do I really walk around and just start belting out songs randomly? (sarcasm, yes...songs, not so much - although it's happened.) I do always have the iPod with me and have been known to adjust my mood depending on what's playing...a sure sign that music and I are the best of friends.
I don't know what songs I would pick, but music is a big part of my life - has been for as long as I can remember. Who would play me? Not sure if he can carry a tune, but Michael Vartan and I apparently look similar (it was either him or Rick Astley - been told I look like both of them...and really, was there another choice to go with there?).
All I know is the show stopping number would make your heart pound and make you understand the power of a great musical. Will keep you posted when I figure out what all the numbers are...
I don't know what songs I would pick, but music is a big part of my life - has been for as long as I can remember. Who would play me? Not sure if he can carry a tune, but Michael Vartan and I apparently look similar (it was either him or Rick Astley - been told I look like both of them...and really, was there another choice to go with there?).
All I know is the show stopping number would make your heart pound and make you understand the power of a great musical. Will keep you posted when I figure out what all the numbers are...
Monday, May 10, 2010
The glass is...
the glass is either half full, or it's half empty. I'm sick of those options. If I paid for the drink (either literally or figuratively) I want my glass full! I'll be the one to empty it thank you very much. I don't want it presented to me with only half. Let's face it, half full or half empty - there's still only half a drink in that glass!
If I've given my time, my money, my effort or even just my order - when the glass is set down in front of me I want it full. Not half full/empty and promises of things yet to come...I don't get to pay bills with a half a check and a promise for the rest when congress agrees with me, or the american people agree with me more.
Just sayin...I want my full glass now please...at my rightful place at the table!
If I've given my time, my money, my effort or even just my order - when the glass is set down in front of me I want it full. Not half full/empty and promises of things yet to come...I don't get to pay bills with a half a check and a promise for the rest when congress agrees with me, or the american people agree with me more.
Just sayin...I want my full glass now please...at my rightful place at the table!
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